Family Trees

You didn’t ask for this
Nobody ever would
Caught in the middle of this dysfunction
It’s your sad reality
It’s your messed up family tree
And all your left with all these questions
Are you gonna be like your father was and his father was?
Do you have to carry what they’ve handed down?
No, this is not your legacy
This is not your destiny
Yesterday does not define you
No, this is not your legacy
This is not your meant to be
I can break the chains that bind you
I have a dream for you
It’s better than where you’ve been
It’s bigger than your imagination
You’re gonna find real love
And you’re gonna hold your kids
You’ll change the course of generations
‘Cause you’re my child  You’re my chosen
You are loved  You are loved
And I will restore all that was broken
You are loved you are loved
And just like the seasons change winter into spring
You’re bringing new life to your family tree now.
“Family Tree”: by Matthew Joseph West
an American contemporary Christian musician


Lack of empathyPoor communication  ♦ Emotional or physical abuseDrug or alcohol abusePerfectionism

Fear and unpredictabilityDenialDisrespect of boundaries

We seem to have more of these kinds of families in the world we live in than you might expect and which go along as if all was normal and think nothing of it.  We all come from different walks of life and we all experience different ways of doing things.  With many of the above mentioned items, it’s no wonder we have families that are dysfunctional and are losing the battle we call life.


It seems every family has a black sheep, the oddball member of the family who does not fall in line with the others; the worst member of the family.

You know the uncle who was a horse thief, or the aunt who made bathtub gin.  The ones we shun to even think we are related to, or the one who was so notorious we just can’t believe they were a descendent of us.

Or the one, like myself, who just marches to the tune of a different drummer.

Sometimes the black sheep is the only one telling the truth.

Even as far back as Adam and Eve we have dysfunction in the family.

Such as their sons Cain and Abel.

Cain was our very first murderer, who killed his brother.

And what about Jesus.  Did you know that his family lineage was a mix of some interesting people.  In Matthew chapter 1, we are given the members of the family of Jesus before He was born.  Not Jesus Himself, as we know, He was God and His Father God, allowed Him to be born of the virgin woman, Mary, who’s husband Joseph was in the lineage of David, which spanned 14 generations from Abraham to David.  As you can see there are too many to mention individually, but just like in our families, some do and some don’t, have a few that raises the eyebrows.  I will tell of just a few.

We know Jesus is the Son of God the Father, who was always with the Father since forever.  Proverbs 8:23, “I have been established from everlasting, from the beginning, before there was ever an earth.”  When God created the earth and those on it, this is where family history begins.


The first person I will mention in Jesus’ family tree is Nahshon

He was around in the time of Moses.  I think he was a brave member of the family because according to Jewish history, he was the person who initiated the Hebrews passage through the Red Sea, by walking in head-deep until the sea was parted by God.


Now Nahshon had a son named Salmon, but the second person in Jesus’ family tree I will mention is a woman named Rahab{Her story is in Joshua 2-6}. 

She was an innkeeper, but it wasn’t her only source of income as she was also a prostitute, who had an affair with Salmon.  They had a son together named Boaz.  However, Rahab had faith in God.  During the time when Joshua took over for Moses during the battle of Jericho, Rahab protected Joshua’s men from harm and in doing so, because of her faith, she and her family were spared when Jericho fell.  Later Rahab repented from her sins of prostitution and became a person of good works.


The next person I will mention in the family tree is David{His story starts in 1 Samuel chapter 8 through to 1 Kings chapter 2}.  History tells us that David was chosen by God to be a king.  He was very brave, able to kill a lion, a bear and a Philistine named Goliath.  But even so David had some problems in his life.  One of his problems was sin.  First he coveted another man’s wife.  Then he had the husband killed to have the wife.  But as much as David did these things against God, he loved God and knew from where his life came from, and he knew God loved him.  David wrote a lot of the Psalms and you can see from many, when he was tormented and troubled and even when he was praising, he looked to God for everything.

As for you and me, we are not our ancestors.  We are unique.  Our family trees don’t make us who we are.  If we think we are doomed because of family history, think again.  We are renewed everyday.  Ephesians 4:20-24, “But you have not so learned Christ, if indeed you have heard Him and have been taught by Him, as the truth is in Jesus: that you put off, concerning your former conduct, the old man which grows corrupt according to the deceitful lusts, and be renewed in the spirit of your mind, and that you put on the new man which was created according to God, in true righteousness and holiness.”   When we live with Jesus we have purpose, we mature, we rejoice in times of trouble.  We don’t have to drag a ball and chain around from the people who have gone before us.  We are not perfect and may never be, because we are flawed.  Jesus’ life was a life of perfection that reaches the flawed.  Some of us may look in appearance like our ancestors, but we are God’s creations, made in His image and our traits should reflect Him. 

Someone once said “Every year you close a chapter in your story.  Don’t write the same one seventy-five times and call it a life.” 

Your yesterdays don’t have to be your tomorrows. 

Jeremiah 29:11, “For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.” 


Our families can be messy.  But when You are a member of God’s family, those messes can be cleaned up and every day can be a day with nothing but the best in store for you. 

Why not get to know your heavenly Father, after all,
you are made in His image.